...subsequently engender a variety of
problems such as: abandonism (subconscious
fear of being abandoned…), emotional dependence, attention-seeking, various
addictions (nicotine, alcohol, drugs,
etc.), jealousy and possessiveness, a desire to please at all costs, fear
of solitude, suppression of emotions, sexual problems, dietary problems (gaining satisfaction from eating to
substitute for emotional satisfaction), neuroses, unbalanced attitude to giving/receiving, etc.
Those in whom this kind of negative belief
predominates erect an internal barrier which separates them from their
emotional wound which is too painful to bear consciously. For example, they
only live "in their head", cutting themselves off from their feelings
and emotions, because they know that deep down there is great distress.
Others deliberately create antipathies with
other people. They behave in this way in order to actually provoke rejection,
which allows them to throw the responsibility onto others ("nobody loves me - it's their fault"). Deep down, the
real belief is "nobody loves me
because I'm not worthy of love", and this subconscious belief is
countered by transferring the blame onto others. To effect this transferral,
the individual does everything possible to make sure that others reject him and
lose interest in him.
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The
third negative believe may be expressed as follows: "I'm incompetent",
with variations like: "I'm useless", "I'm worthless".
This kind of belief stems from the child's
relationship with his father, and especially the interest the father has/hasn't
shown in the child, by spending time with him and nurturing his abilities and
talents in particular. The child who hasn't received enough paternal support
regarding his value and competence develops the belief that he's not really a
valuable or capable person. An element of doubt about his own worth is planted
in his mind.
The "feedback" that the father
gives him, through his presence and contact (or lack of it), will have a direct
influence on the future social identity of the child. When he finds no mirror
or example represented in his father, he cannot find the self-confidence he
needs to develop. This results in a complex about his identity and value which
will then be expressed in various ways, all relating to self-assertion:
submission or domination (in
inter-personal relations), desperate search for recognition, poor
self-image, inability to be assertive or realise potential, suppressed anger
and aggression, social effacement or conversely a great thirst for power,
career problems, demanding or aggressive tone of voice, rejection or fear of
authority, feeling of superiority or inferiority, neuroses, perfectionism,
activism, etc.
You can therefore see that when these
negative conditioning "filters" are hindering the proper functioning
of the lower chakras (Root, Sacral, Solar Plexus), everything is thrown out of
balance. Consequently, the other higher chakras can no longer capture universal
cosmic energy either.
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